i’m on vacation. yes, it’s a staycation (hate that word really) but i’ve got a lot to do around here so it’ll be good. 

hopefully in the fall, i can take a real vacation that involves leaving my hometown or state. hah. 

first project is the clear the sunroom of cat litter. i gave teh cat back to G. i just don’t want to take care of anything eles except myself and the girls. so bye poot. she was lonely here anyway, i work too much and with the girls gone sat-tues, she was just so lonely. at least at G’s she can torture his dog. 

there’s going to be much purging of things. i want to lose half the shit i have around here. i don’t need all this crap. it just takes up space. i still have boxes from when we moved here labelled “a box of shit” that is so ridiculous! and i have ikea craptastic furniture that i don’t need anymore. so that’ll get set out in the alley and hopefully someone will take it and put it to good use.

I’m set for a busy day off today. cleaning and organizing and rearranging the house. Running to Ikea for new beds for the girls for daddy’s house, dropping said beds off at G’s. Target for some essentials for myself. Comcast to drop off the cable boxes. whew. also, laundry. good thing I’m on coffee number 2 for the day. here comes carae, waking up finally! so I’m off to it.

And G is moving out this weekend. I predict a long, somewhat drawn out process. There is not a box in sight. oh well. I’ll take my time sorting and purging and rearranging. We are trying to be so fair in this process. who gets what, how much do we each owe for the shared debt. I’ll pay you for our bed since it’s a pain to move it out of this place. you pay the car  insurance, I’ll pay for the (ex)family phone plan. how often do we each have the girls. do we change the bus pick up (not this year.) and on and on. more of the same to come, I’m sure.

I’ve been on ikea.com the last few days dreaming of my dream house. but of course, my dream house doesn’t really involve ikea furniture but does involve a lot of money so that’s why i’m perusing ikea.com. i went today and bought a few things, under $70 worth of stuff. a new light for the living room, a rug now that knuckles won’t be here all the time to pee on it. some other swedish made in china crap. I had both girls, that was a a fun adventure. they did surprisingly well considering it was very crowded which can throw Lu into a mood and the middle of the afternoon when CaRae should be napping. I looked like the crazy mom only three times. so yes, I’ll call it a success.

So it’s been a fun few weeks around here. separating out a joint bank account, credit card debt and loans is a giant PITA. but I think I’m there. one giant loan to cover all the joint debt so any new debt isn’t confused for old joint debt. two checking accounts, one for us each. a refinanced car loan for me with a lower payment, cancelled the cable tv. lowered monthly payments all around. things financially should be set. unless something disastrous happens. but that’s always been a factor.

Yup, change happens so damn fast sometimes .

G is moving out. We’ll raise the girls together but with separate homes. It will be okay. We’ll all be okay. He gets the dog, I’ll take the cat. He gets the Honda, I’ll take the Mazda. We get to be happy. Hopefully. That’s what we both want. Or at least not to live with this underlying anger (at least on my side) and building resentment.

I will be fine. And so will he. And so will the girls.